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Spring Fever

  • el autor- Agustín Martinez, Beaufort, S.C.

Soon we will be standing outside early in the morning listening to the chirping of birds, feeling the cool morning breeze with a smile on our faces in anticipation of the approaching spring.
It is a wonderful time of the year. There is something magical, if not holy, about watching the earth renew in the full bloom of spring.
However, for many parents, especially the mothers and fathers of the young men I mentor, this season should come with a warning label– that with spring comes spring fever.
As it is, many of my young men are used to doing as they please and many are also quite impulsive. Neither of these are good traits. Just as the adult looks forward to spring, to getting out more, doing more, enjoying the weather and especially socializing, so does the teen. Parents need to be prepared. Lack of preparedness, plus unstructured households, plus impulsivity, plus youth equals a season of regret.
Allow me to share some past experiences.
The years leading up to the teenage years are crucial. Here is where children learn the habits, rituals, and traditions of their families. If children are kept busy in wholesome activities, they will develop into good time managers. They will also associate with other children with similar values and thus be surrounded by achievers. Are there exceptions? Of course, there will always be exceptions.
However, too many of the youth I have met are not raised in structured environments. Many times I have asked a parent to tell me the things their child likes to do. The question is aimed at telling me how well this parent knows his child.
The results have been tragic. Once during a home visit, I asked “Bill’s” mom to tell me what sorts of things “Bill” enjoys doing. She shrugged her shoulders at me. She was clueless.
“You don’t your son very well,” I said. She scowled and told me to leave. I did. Unfortunately, I have met too many parents like Bill’s mom who don’t know their own child.
If I am giving a class on communication I will have parents write on a note card three things their child is good at and three things their child hopes to accomplish. This can prove to be a very difficult process for too many parents. However, if I gathered the parents of a group of high school athletes the results will be quite different. The differences are stark and yet enlightening as to why some children are so successful and why some are not.
A parent should become a student of their child. They should study that child, their strengths and weaknesses, their abilities and potential abilities. In the process of doing this a parent will begin to get a general, but better, idea of who their children will grow up to be.
Sometimes we can see early on, for instance, that our child will not be happy working indoors as an adult. This is one of many tasks a parent will be burdened with doing. It is a necessary one. Children generally do not find their way in life naturally. We the parents are necessary to guide them.
It is never too late to begin being involved in your child’s life, but the sooner the better. You, the parent, will always be your child’s greatest influence.
Make it count.

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Wednesday, March 1, 2017